Some of you have said I jumped the gun with keeping the ring. I should have started with "getting the ring". And I promise I got you covered. How to get the ring in 60 days is coming soon. But if you really want me to start at the beginning you must know getting the ring is NOT the beginning. First thing to getting married & staying married is to accept that your life is not going to go as you planned it. Some of you went through college & started your career just as you planned. You were driven & focused. But in comparison to marriage, college was a cake walk. If you paint a perfect picture of your life and want your husband to be the frame: get a prenup! Your marriage will not work. That picture will be what you two create and it'll change as time goes on.
It is time to challenge your way of thinking. Take everything you think you want for your life & question it. Why do you really want to get married? Surely not because it's easier to live with another human being with a completely different upbringing, set of values, needs, wants,goals,......(we could identify the differences forever). Is it because that's your life plan: graduate high school, college, start career, then a family? Are you looking for a husband could share the load, split the costs, maybe even pay all the bills? Do you need to feel loved? Is it simply because your family wants you to? What about to be a queen for a day & walk down the aisle dressed in all white? The reasons could go on & on but too many of you want to get married and don't even know why. Take off your rose colored shades and get a good hard look at marriage. Read what the bible says about marriage. What characteristics do biblical wives have? What about women who have been married for years? Don't want the ring because your friends have a ring or because Beyonce' running around in a leotard waving her ring finger in the air. Marriage has only one guarantee. You will give up aspects of yourself and your life to someone who is imperfect!!! And for that reason alone he will never do enough to "deserve" you. Now ask yourself: Am I even wife material?
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